Being offended comes way too easily for all of us. Sure, when confronted, many would say, “I’m not offended!” The reality is that when we bottle up questions or concerns we are putting ourselves at risk of formulating a skewed perspective.
Admit it, you’ve had arguments with someone that took place completely inside your head. They were not even there! How many times did that work out well?
Recently, a good friend sent me an email with questions about something I had done. What they saw troubled them so they went directly to the source… me. They were not offended. But, it did trouble them. It was resolved by sending an email that did not slam me or prejudge my motives. They simply asked how I saw this in light of Scripture.
There may have been people who questioned my intent about the same thing and had a conversation with me in their heads. I sure hope the imaginary me said the right thing.
I am grateful that someone who loves me, just asked. The truth is that what troubled them did not violate Scripture. But, it was unwise and needed to be corrected.
So, what did I do? I fixed it.
Pride leads to conflict;
those who take advice are wise. ~ Proverbs 13:10
Tell us about a time you avoided going to the source?
I am so thankful that my Pastor is willing to hear the hearts of the poeple that he leads. its refreshing and shows me the intregity in his heart.
There have been many times in my life that I have had a conversation in my head, thinking that i know what that person is thinking…….the truth is i dont know what other people are thinking. I truly believe that most people are really trying to do the best they can in this life. Its so much nicer to come along side someone towards a solution and partnership then it is to point a finger. Truly when i point a finger at someone else i have three pointing back at me!!
I am so happy to know you PB! You are awesome!